We normally begin our lives by focusing on what others are doing. Whether we think as individuals or as nations or societies; we set our goals on the basis of what is going on around us and taking clues from what all has made others apparently ‘successful’ and ‘happy’. We set our goals in alignment with the parameters of ‘success’ and ‘happiness’ achieved by others without paying enough attention to our needs, abilities, limitations, historical and cultural backgrounds, resources available to us, our potential, and inhibitions etc.
After setting our goals, we do whatever we can do and achieve whatever is possible. We classify all our achievements as ‘successes’, without even bothering to review if all what we could achieve was actually needed by us. To celebrate our success, we try to believe that what we achieved was needed by us and try to relegate our true needs to the background. We feel sorry about what we failed to achieve (without even realizing that we never needed what we had been trying to achieve), and, get busy in finding ways and means to convert our ‘failures’ into ‘successes’.
We lead a life heavily deprived of what we needed, submerged into the corrupting abundance of what we never needed; ostentatiously rejoicing our ‘successes’ with others who are as pretentious as us; and mourning about what we are deprived of in the loneliness of dark and hopeless nights.
By focusing on others, we do not remain ‘we’, snapping all the connections with what we have been, once upon a time, when we stepped into our lives. When we fail to connect with us, we fail to connect with all others who sail in the same boat as we do.
We were born as human beings, with all the divinity and limitations naturally associated therewith. We have ever been inclined to explore the divinity within us and freely dwell in it, struggling against our limitations that chained us. A world with an infinitely huge reservoir of resources was made available to us free of any cost. We were, individually and collectively, expected to find for ourselves what was enough for us, relieving us all the burdens, so that we live in peace and accomplish all that was needed to make us free of any captivity and accumulate what we needed to live like a human being. We were expected to keep in sharp focus what was humane about us. To do it, we had to imploringly look within us to know what we needed. It was meaningless to focus on ‘apparent images’, when we had the ability to elevate ourselves and come closer to what is real.
PROMOD KUMAR SHARMA
[The writer of this blog is also the author of “Mahatma A Scientist of the Intuitively Obvious” and “In Search of Our Wonderful Words”.]